Wesley Kenneth Lam
1966 - 2017
SKOWHEGAN - Wesley Kenneth Lam, 50, of Skowhegan, was a gentle giant and a kind-hearted soul who would always help anyone who needed help and never asked for anything in return. Despite suffering from schizophrenia and mental illness for more than 32 years, he kept in good spirits and helped take great care of his mother, Carol Lam. After a final act of kindness of shoveling out an area for the birds to eat, his heart finally gave out and he suffered a massive heart attack.
Wesley enjoyed time with his sister, brother-in-law, brother, sister-in-law, special niece and nephews and family. He also loved being a diehard Dallas Cowboys fan, bowling, golfing, playing games, and just sitting at local restaurants drinking coffee.
He had a great deal of family and friends from childhood with whom he lost contact over the years because of his illness. He would reminisce about his youthful adventures and memories, often dwelling on the past with regrets of what could have and should have been. This was part of his illness and those regrets weighed heavily on his mind and soul. Those who knew Wesley over his lifetime could easily focus on what they could have or should have done, but that is not what he would have wanted.
What Wesley would want is for those still living to spend more time with those they love, remember those great memories, and take those extra few moments in our busy lives to have that extra cup of coffee or conversation with the people in our lives.
Wesley is survived by his mother Carol Lam, of Skowhegan; one sister, Kelley Mitchell and her husband Thomas Mitchell, of Norridgewock; one brother, Travis Works and his wife Eleasha, of Skowhegan; four nephews, Dylan Mitchell, of Presque Isle; Wyatt Mitchell, of Norridgewock; and Jacob and Lyle Works of Skowhegan; one niece, Heather Mitchell, of Penobscot; several great-nieces and nephews; numerous relatives on his father side from Stafford Springs, Conn., Pat and Ray Marin, Spike Lam, Tim Lam, and their extended families, close relatives in the area that he loved to talk with include Meredith Trask and Victoria Giroux and their extended families, special friends he visited and talked with regularly include Gene George and Sherry Freese, and his very best friend Sharon Kinney.
He was predeceased by his father, Edward Lam Jr., of Stafford Springs, Conn.; paternal grandparents, Ed and Katherine Lam; and maternal grandparents, Kenneth and Virginia Brumm.
A celebration of life for family and friends will be held Saturday, March 25, 2017, at 2 p.m. at 338 Bigelow Hill Rd., Skowhegan, (207-399-6503 / firstname.lastname@example.org). A burial will be held at a later date in the spring at the Greenlawn Cemetary in Clinton. In May, a notification of date and time will be in the paper. Arrangements are under the care and direction of the Smart & Edwards Funeral Home, 183 Madison Ave., Skowhegan.
Donations can be made in Wesley's memory to a charity of
one's own choice for mental illness
Published in Central Maine on Mar. 20, 2017